Men- No, we can't hook up. No you can't get my number. No, I will not tell you which bar I work at. No, I will not be posting pictures on my site. If this is what you are here for, by all means, stay and stare at my page. Idiot.
Gentlemen- this is why we advertise such a difference in groups of men. There are some of you who genuinely care about your spouse, and are here to ask questions and seek advice. Please, by all means, stay, read, ask. Let's chat! I love you guys!
LADIES- I have got some GREAT letters from you!!! I am so glad so many people have passed my blog on! You ladies are amazing! Spectacular!
So, here is my current email received. It's actually something I just spoke about with a good friend of mine (don't worry girl, I won't post your name). LACK OF LIBIDO. You find it hard to be turned on for your man when he gets home. Men are visual creatures. They see something that looks like a nipple, and they are excited, and want to see more. Women tend to over think things. What if I'm not good, I didn't wash my hair today, I'm still fat. Your man does NOT care about any of that. I promise! If you are having a hard time being aroused. Check out some literotica. It's the new age trashy novel. Or use a good ol' fashioned trashy novel. There are so many, because they sell so well! I read them. Seriously. Read one before hubby gets home from work. Read one on your lunch break. Get worked up so you can think about it all day. Watch a video. Yes ladies, there are great sites for you too. Porn is for everyone. In all shapes and sizes (books, pictures, movies, whatever your pleasure may be). With that you may see, hear or read something you didn't even know you wanted to try. Something new you are into. Get yourself worked up. You can't expect them to do all the work. To my male readers- again, tell her she's amazing. Rub her back. Scratch her back. Rub her feet. I don't know what she's into, but you damn well should.
Keep 'em coming amyisivy@gmail.com
I love the way you say it, but when I boil it all down to the essentials it sounds like this:
ReplyDelete1. Communicate
2. Make your partner happy when you can
3. Ask for them to make you happy when you need it
4. Communicate some more
rinse and repeat...
Exactly. Almost. Don't forget TRY. Dress up for each other, compliment each other, show each other affection in the house and in public. You have to work on a relationship. After the honeymoon period, you get comfortable. Start settling. After you're settled, there are arguments, boredom, etc. Not all the time, but it happens. Divorce is a 50/50 nowadays. People don't realize that relationships need work. Like your car. It needs a tune up every now and again. Maybe some new parts. So does your relationship. Give yourselves time for yourselves. Be one person, and be a couple. Be open. Be honest. But be polite. Be caring. And make sure sex is a part of your relationship. Even if it's only once a week.
ReplyDeleteGreat advice, as always. For the benefit of all mankind, I think scientists need to start working on cloning you.
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